Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the end of a job or career, the change of house or location, the end of a way of life, it is a fact, if something ends, then something begins.
As they say, “as one door closes, another one opens”. However even though that saying has been around forever, for many of us they are hollow
words and we do not truly believe this.
Ironically, sometimes, no matter how painful, it is easier to stay in the past. Why? because it is known to us, it is habitual even when it is destructive.
A change of situation, maybe a relationship or a job, might feel exciting or even daunting, yet still another part of you misses the security you felt in that
situation. Which emotions are stirred up in you? Anger, sadness, regret, loss, excitement? Endings inevitably bring about change. Sometimes
there might be a reluctance to change and at other times we might embrace the change.
Perhaps how we view the change depends on the element of control we had over the ending and the new beginning. If the control has been taken away
from you, then you are bound to feel that the ending is a loss.
There may be a period of regret or grief; think the ending of a relationship. How could this possibly be a good thing or a ‘new beginning’? If you dig deep,
you might realise that change and a new beginning was needed, and the Universe has stepped in and is guiding you.
“The Only Thing That Is Constant Is Change” (Greek Philosopher, Heraclitus) Change takes time Much of it is about acceptance. To accept change, we must try not to fight it. Allow yourself to grieve, rage, be angry… whatever it is that you feel about the ending is OK.
Once you realise that those emotions won’t be with you forever and once you allow yourself to feel them, then you can move on. To make room for new habits, relationships, or jobs, then we must change the old ways.
Embrace the change and begin anew Embracing change implies that you don’t see change as adversity, but an opportunity to improve yourself
or try new things. For some it’s a big, brave step into the unknown, and sometimes a risk, but in every new beginning there is a gift waiting for you – once you open your eyes and believe in yourself, you will find it.